All, My Philosophy About Birth, Podcast

Why I Collect Stories About Orgasmic Birth?

By  Elena

I first came to orgasmic birth through research about physiological birth.

It was then that I realized that the natural hormones of birth endorphins, DMT and oxytocin were all present and part of creating that fabled “hour afterglow” of bonding and love that so many mothers (myself included) have distrupted by medical birth. 

I now like to call the successful achievement of that afterglow a Joygasmic moment of birth.

Talking to Debra Pascali-Bonoro helped me realize that orgasmic birth is a whole spectrum, from any moment of pleasure in birth to the famed birth orgasm.

I then realized that (just like sex) seeking after an orgasm in birth is likely not the best way to get there. 

I’ve looked to the surrender of hypnobirthing to the waves of surges, the stories of mothers who have had painful births, then processed their trauma (and past sexual trauma) and gone on to have beautiful births, and drawn the conclusion that trauma stored in the body and unprocessed leads to some of the pain in birth. 

In focusing on sharing stories about orgamic birth I like to think I am breaking the box of painful birth mythos.  Many women are only seeking a pain free birth and are missing the very beautiful biological fact that birth is meant to be a pleasurable transcendent marathon of love.

Are you kidding me? Birth HURTS!

Having given birth to my son vaginally I know the intensity of birth and had a hard time conceptualizing that those sensations could be seen as pleasurable untill I heard Amber Hartnel’s story about having learned to transmute pain into pleasure as she was beaten as a young child. I could see how this then naturally translated into her famous and giggly orgasmic birth video.

Like great intimacy, sometimes birth requires us to sob, ask for help and brings us to our knees. That doesn’t mean it can’t also be pleasurable at other moments, and to ignore one or the other is to deny the totality that is birth.

About Your Host:


As a single parent for many years, Elena knows what it's like to live in daily overwhelm that seems it will never end. After suffering from severe post-partum depression for 5 years, and an abusive relationship that she couldn't seem to quit, Elena developed a case of seriously self destructive self talk about being a "horrible mother". She knew she needed to do something different, but couldn't seem to shake old patterns. She started to experiment with the few things that HAD been working to bring her more peace, and combined them into one power packed (and quick) experience, to help find that inner peace, and make progress towards her goal of ACTUALLY feeling like a good mom. Through these tracks she's been able to stop experiencing irrational anger towards child, is no longer experiencing mental health challenges, and has even attracted a wonderful man into her life who is a great father to her son and a dream come true. Now she works to help other mothers to manage and reduce their stress, build healthier relationships, stop sounding like their mothers, and live lives they once only dreamed of.

Elena H

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