Chapter 11 – Our Attachments Blind

I know that my attachment to my old story had blinded me from many of the spectacular moments that have passed along the way.  The pain of the past holding a cloth over the eyes of each moment, blurring the sunsets, and the sweet cuddles with my son.  Preventing me from seeing them clearly, and stopping me from being in this moment now, in the full bliss that I am capable of.

Being born into to the privileged west, where we are raised in families with the resources to let us believe that we really can do anything, I’ve realized that this comes with it’s own challenge.  First World Problems.  Those problems that live in the space between our ears, that torture us, and keep us from being present in the day, and keep us up at night. In a world where we are supposed to have everything, our cars and houses and high paying jobs have taken us away from something crucial that we don’t even realize we are missing.  

Happiness in THIS moment, and someones to share it with. 

As I began my journey of recovery from the experiences that you are about to read about, I wondered:

What did it all mean? 

What was the purpose of it?

Why had I put myself through such torture?

What had become of my life?
How could I possibly make sense of it all?

I knew I had to share the story, to bring light to the pain, to help other see that they weren’t alone, to help some avoid the mistakes I had made, and to share the powerful tools I had created to heal from my misery.  After all, isn’t that the point of a good story?

So when I sat down to write this book, and asked JoyGasm, “what is the best way to serve” I knew then that the intention for this book is to create the most powerful tool of transformation for the women and men who read it.  To offer you the gift that this experience created for me, without you having to go through all the shit I did.  To tell you my story, and to let it help you understand yours, act as an opening catalyst to help you access the emotions you’ve locked away about the experiences we’ve shared.  To help you see and feel those emotions, to give you the tools to process it, the community to support you, and by the end of the book for you to have the magic of The JoyGasmic Path at your fingertips.  

I will ask you to walk with us 
as together we go through the fire of shit that were our worst, 

While we do that, I’d encourage you engaged with the online community.  There, you’ll find written outlines of the tools, play along videos, and printable copies of the worksheets and mandalas so you can create your own daily practices.  

How do you actually find time for you?

Somedays the kids drive you crazy! It's the little things we do EVERY DAY that support you or leave you exhausted.  You get angry at them when they fight, complain, or ask for your attention CONSTANTLY.   It feels like it's never ending.  

You know you need to take time for yourself... but when?
How? Video yoga at home with kids around? Ya right!

I hear you. 

Mom Self Care needs to be simple, easy, repeatable and effective.  

That's why I've brought together all the best tools for transformation of psyche that I've encountered, combined with bio-hacking and ancient tantric breath.  Learning joygasmic secrets opens new ways to deal with ancestral trauma. becomes simple as you bio-hack your way  through the nervous system regulation trial that is life as mother.

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Still here? Maybe you need some background on why I'm sharing this...

As a single parent for many years, I know what it's like to live in daily overwhelm that seems it will never end.

After suffering from severe post-partum depression for 7 years, and an abusive relationship that I couldn't seem to quit, I developed a case of seriously self destructive self talk about being a "horrible mother". I knew I needed to do something different, but couldn't seem to shake old patterns.

I took every personal development class that came my way for 3 years straight.  3 day weekend intensives 3x month. After a while started to experiment with the few things that HAD been working to bring me more peace, and combined them into one power packed (and quick) experience, to help find that inner peace, and make progress towards my goal of ACTUALLY feeling good.

I built the first brain training track after listening to a John Asaraf course.  Things started changing for me in a big way and with these tracks I've been able to stop experiencing irrational anger towards my first child (who I had medical birth bonding trauma).  I'm no longer experiencing mental health challenges, attracted a wonderful man into my life who is a great father to her son so much more I dreamed of.

Now I spend my days writing, baby tending and helping other mothers  manage and reduce their stress, build healthier relationships, stop sounding like their mothers, and live lives they once only dreamed of.

I put the best, worst and naughtiest of it into this epic 444 page memoir to help myself and you recover from the culturally normalized rape that is all to rampant in the world right now.

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Mr. D and the Joygasm Queen

If you've ever loved and lost, you know that in the aftermath of a broken heart, nothing seems worthwhile.  

This book is a vulnerable, raw exploration of the 21st Century shadow of "failed nuclear family" and takes you on a journey to heal your own heart, brain, and body from the pain of feeling alone in a world that doesn't seem to care. 

I offers "what actually worked" for me to heal from the inside out all while traveling the world as a single mom-preneur.