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I share wisdom, tools and inspiring stories that will help you become more aware of your past patterning, and break out of it.
I share wisdom, tools and inspiring stories that will help you become more aware of your past patterning, and break out of it.
I’ve often felt there was something different about me, and this compulsive desire to achieve and make a difference and I wanted to see if there was some literal truth to it, and went digging through the internet, turns out there are lots of talks, and some hard science to back it up, and it all comes down to Histamine.
This genetic mutation, also knows as Histadelia or High Histamine runs in families, and is often responsible for dynasties of successful families of entrepreneurs.
A classic example of high histamine genetics is the Kennedy clan: Almost all of them possess that tremendous, unrelenting passion to attain, along with wild sexual exploitation, and a tendency towards death and mayhem. More on that in a moment.
Turns out families with a history of Histadelia have higher rates of Nobel Peace Prize winners, and also higher rates of schizophrenics, depression, and suicide.
Before we go on to make sure you’re one of the winners, vs the crazy or dead, check yourself. How many of these other indicators of the entrepreneur gene and high histamine do you have?
Before we go on to some techniques to make sure you’re one of the winners, vs the crazy or dead, check yourself.
When I first read the list I was astonished at how many of these characteristics I had.
Let’s take “Compulsive Risk Taking” as an example. In 2010 picking up my life, my 10-month-old son and heading to Mexico for 6 months with $500 to my name seemed no more risky than staying in Canada for the winter. Most people would think I’m crazy. Mexico seemed like a safer option in my mind.
The ability to laugh at risk for an entrepreneur is a good thing. We need to be capable of doing the work ahead of us, in the allotted time, with a limited amount of resources, with absolutely no guarantee of success.
That visionary mind sees a big dream, has the will to make it happen, NO MATTER WHAT. You’ve got a vision, you’ve got game, and you’ve got a business.
What about when that spills over into overcommitting, overwhelm, insomnia, mania, and suicidal depression. Now that’s a recipe for disaster.
Just because there is a genetic tendency toward entrepreneurship, doesn’t guarantee becoming a successful entrepreneur.
In fact the odds are just as stacked towards burning out early, lifelong addiction, ending up dead by our own hands, or locked in a mental hospital, as they are towards solving world hunger, being the next Steve Jobs or reversing global climate change.
Grim thoughts, however ones that can be helpful if we use it as an incentive to develop excellent self care and nutrition to help ourselves sooner rather than later.
In order to find balance and success, we need to figure out how to deal with the more negative consequences of our tendencies and promote the positive ones.
Entrepreneurs are often so focused on the big goal that they struggle to remember what they’ve done well. Keeping a daily before bed journal of gratitude, things that are going well, triumphs of the day, and people who have supported you, helps to keep perspective when that big contract cancels and you’re left high and dry at the end of the month, or when your dreams hit that first (or fiftieth) obstacle and you just want to give up.
Even better, keeping a wall of accomplishments, and making a regular practice to review them, will help gain perspective on how much you really ARE doing, and help you to feel like you are making progress towards those big hairy goals. Journaling right before bed, is also great sleep hygiene, allowing yourself to clear the mind of the tasks you need to do tomorrow, and calm the body with a slow and relaxing activity.
Action Item: Check out this 5-minute hack for doing a great daily check-in/checkout for your workday.https://projectevo.org/app-install/
Because of the high metabolism Histadellics often run through their nutrients faster than they can put them into the body. Brain fog is a real thing.
While forgetting the name of a person an at a networking event maybe forgivable, completely forgetting the key point of your keynote on stage infant of 1000 people, could turn the opportunity of a lifetime, into “that day I destroyed my career”.
Your brain needs to be sharp, and your mind needs to be clear.
Eating healthy whole foods, at regular times is crucial, as processed/takeout foods are often packed with toxins, additives, colours and chemicals which over time will impact your body more than the average person.
If you’re experiencing troubles with brain fog, adding in an Omega supplement with 2x more EPA than DHA will help give the brain the building blocks it needs to repair and restore that fog. If you’re not experiencing any troubles, give it a try for a month, and see how superhuman your brain will become!
If you’re having trouble with sleep or twitchy legs before bed. Magnesium can really help deal with the underlying causes.
Try switching to a high-quality veg and fruit smoothie in the morning. Not only does it make breakfast quicker to make (so you can get to your workday already), though if you have a tendency to forget to eat, you can drink your mid-day meals, in smoothie form, and still nourish your body.
90% of the population is deficient in one or more of these vitamins, Magnesium, Vitamin C, Niacin, cannabinoids, B Complex, Zinc, Multivitamin, Omega’s, Lecithin, and for Histadelics it’s even more important to supplement to avoid mental illness and avoid burnout.
Action Item: Click here to get a quick list of which vitamins I use on regular basis to keep my brain sharp. elenaharderr.com/Vitamins
For those with never-ending to-do lists, relaxing is challenging, and falling asleep can be impossible some nights. Good bedtime hygiene and journaling can help, though if you’re still struggling, try Isochronics.
Isochronics are a powerful way of helping you shift from work mode, creative problem solving, badass focus, get shit done, over to chill mode (what’s chill mode? you say, try this track) or preparing the mind for sleep. Isochronics work by broadcasting a frequency of sound through the space that causes the brain waves to shift into a particular frequency, for example, Alpha waves for concentration, or restful theta waves for deeper meditations and sleep. They can even be used to increase arousal (not that we need help with that), creativity, and focus.
Action Item: Check out this search on youtube, and click around till you find something that works for your ears and preferences.
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “90% of all business growth is personal growth”, one of the biggest factors contributing to mental health is our own self-talk.
How we speak to ourselves is crucially important, and especially if you’re dealing with a vitamin deficiency, these voices can get loud and nasty really fast.
Brain training is best done in the morning and evening times when we are rising/getting ready for sleep, because we’re able to access the subconscious easier, and use these times to program our brain to be better and more resourceful entrepreneurs. NLP (NeuroLinguistic Programming) is the basis of Tony Robins work and is part of what makes the work of the biggest personal development leaders work to create permanent change.
It involves asking ourselves questions, and making statements to the subconscious mind like “How easily can I leverage the skills I have to be even more successful in my business?” Questions like this pre-suppose (a fancy NLP way of saying that they assume) that it is easy, for you to do this, that you have the skills you need, and that you are “even more successful” implying to the subconscious that you are ALREADY successful, and simply seeking more of the same.
Action Item: Check out these custom made brain training tracks for entrepreneurs
Entrepreneurs often feel they are different than others, (partially because they are) and it can be a lonely journey, especially if friends and family members are 9-5’ers who don’t understand why you are so driven, compulsive, or overwhelmed by the need to achieve in your unique way. Finding other entrepreneurs, whether that is through a group coaching program, accountability group, co-working or educational program, allow you to brainstorm, learn from, and spend time with people like you, who are driven to make a difference in the world.
Action Item: My personal favourite group, and a lifesaver in a world of “seeming to have it all together” is the vulnerability, support, and weekly “we’re showing up for each other here at the Ignite. If you’ve read all the way to the bottom here, you’ll fit right in, so click here to join us!
What if action sparked a new reality,
quicker than anyone could comprehend
without having been here,
experiencing a global trauma
or the beginnings of enlightenment.
We know that wealthy, corporate interests
are pushing politicians to cut social services,
lift environmental regulations,
and relax labour laws to help the economy “bounce back.”
That’s why we’re working with organizations and groups
from all across the country to build a mass, people-powered movement
that will fight for government action to meet our communities’ needs,
generate millions of decent, green jobs, and tackle the climate crisis.
The first step is reaching out in our communities
to come together
behind the vision
of a Just
We’ll do that by hosting virtual,
locally led teach-ins across the country
bringing this vision to the people.
(wherever you are)
Do you feel the call?
Interested in attending or co-hosting a LOCAL ACTION GROUP, please reply back YES ACTION.
Traveling onwards all the time,
meant that friends were few and far between.
I remember standing in the square in Tagahzout Morocco.
My boyfriend had just left me.
No more exciting first kisses,
only an expensive lease on our newly chosen apartment,
a broken heart, and a terrifying feeling that
I may never see him ever again in person,
as he traveled onwards to Russia.
My heart broken, and relieved at the same time.
I feel like a failure in love. In life.
But I must go on.
I look at the people talking and connecting.
In this foreign land, I wonder why I am here?
I see men talking lively in the streets. Holding hands while walking.
Kissing each other on the cheeks as they say goodbye.
This culture has an understanding of brotherly love
in a way that my culture of origin doesn’t.
But as I look around, I am one of the only women
this culture also doesn’t view freedom for women
the way my culture of origin does.
But friendship, friendship I see everywhere.
In the casual conversations around me.
I watch two men in particular having a rousing conversation
they speak together, and their bodies show an open familiarity
A laughter and a joy at being together.
I sit in the square watching them for a while
and all the while the burning in my heart grows and grows
Where is my friendship?
Where is my home base?
we have come to walk this gorgeous earth
as change makers who know their role
so things can be so, so different
than they were before.
so that freedom may ring upon the land
strife and starvation a distant memory
I am a woman, the voice of our generation
I am the daughter of change makers,
Because my mother was a change maker,
no one hit my bum.
Because she was a change maker,
my father never hit me.
Neither did the teachers,
or the church men, or the nuns.
Because your mother was a change maker,
I wasn’t raped by your brother after school.
or “caught someplace I shouldn’t be” by your father
and “punished” in ways that were too cruel.
Because our mothers were change makers
We didn’t grow up in fear, starvation or leering looks
We grew up with the freedom to read books
Because your mother was a change maker.
You got to go to school.
and choose your own major in college,
Because of a generation of change makers
You got to see the glass ceiling,
and wonder why it’s there,
instead of sitting at home raising babies,
while your husband does his secretary after work
making excuses like “fair is fair”
Because our grand mothers were change makers,
your mother felt she had the right to ask for change.
Because our mothers were change makers
we feel we deserve the freedoms in which we were raised.
yet despite this legacy of change,
and how free we were raised to be
many were not as lucky as me,
They suffered greatly from the old ways.
and many still quake within their mental walls,
struggling to find the strength to to be whole
So there is still work to do,
to raise a free woMAN in this land
The time for change is always now,
so raise your voice and speak out loud
the valiant thoughts you’ve always held
find your voice,
make your choice,
and stand in your power now.
together we are claiming greater strength
together we stand, here, hand in hand,
as the change makers our babes need
things will change more
than ever before.
My only question to you change maker
which changes are you ready to stand up for?
Have you ever had a moment like this??? You’ve finally got yourself out of conversations about Roblox, or whatever YOUR kid loves, and you’ve got 15 minutes before your next phone call. It’s a discovery session, and your next months food feels like it depends on this call going well and your prospect turning into a client.
The house is surprisingly quiet for about 15 minutes, but then only 5 minutes into a discovery session and a familiar knock comes on the door, and while you’re in the middle of your call, your kid is tapping you on your shoulder, talking to you, or worse on your lap, and putting their fingers in the camera! SO UNPROFESSIONAL.
All of these were real life horror stories of working from home for me over the last few years. Fortunately as my son got older, we figured out better systems to make sure I was able to get focused work time, and he felt like he was getting my attention and love.
While my soul passed into this world,
my mother chanted sacred words.
Words that my father brought to her,
from his favorite worlds, and wise witches.
We must remember these words now.
More than ever we must live them.
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” Frank Herbert, Dune
In the past I have failed to head these words,
and I have suffered,
the foolish obliteration
that succumbing to fear brings.
No more. Not now.
Those who are in fear
need to hear
our Rainbow Warrior Love Soul Song now,
more than ever.
They need hear the true stories of the Lightworkers
of how WE HAVE ALREADY faced our greatest fears,
and now live to help others.
If you resonate as Lightworker, Starseed, Rainbow Child, LBGQT, PTG, or Conscious Mother, you have already passed the test, you have already awoken.
The challenge now
is to walk that talk,
every single day
as a journey of self love
for the salvation,
and the thriving
of all our lives is in our faith for the planet,
and our own aligned and resonant actions with our communities and families
We are the ones we have been waiting for.
The force is with us.
Feel your feelings,
and then Rise!
#NomadMama #COVID19 #Dune #Lightworker #Lightwarrior #Awakened #WalkYourTalk #TogetherWeThrive
Many people think that travel is
Bev Roberts is a corporate escapee, closet triple threat entertainer and wellbeing transformation coach who loves to beach walk, live a low-tox life and speak out on how dismissively people with invisible illness like chronic fatigue or fibromyalgia are treated.
She’s known as a practical, generous woman who cuts to the heart of the matter quickly and is direct about her insights. When she’s not dispelling myths about quick fixes, Bev is likely to be researching the latest science and evidence-based approaches to well-being
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That what is happening in the gut affects the brain and mental health. By treating the gut with a personalized plan, you can heal your mind and mood.
Takeaways: Mums are often ignored/gaslighted by institutions if they try to step outside the model of brain chemistry causes mental health problems and demand investigation for neuroimmune considerations.
Food intolerances can be the main driver of psychiatric disease and neurological disorders (such as gluten ataxia, celiac, cerebral folate deficiency syndrome).
There is no one pill to fix everyone, each body needs different things, and a knowledgeable supportive guide can help you figure out what that is.
Nora does an amazing job of covering things like important tax, legal, healthcare, residency, voting, and document saving 10x better than I want to. It’s a bit of a dry article compared to this one, but these things are important enough that I think you should open the tab and read it after you read some hilarious real world stories of shit that went wrong in my travels. Don’t worry, I recovered from all of them.
Imagine your on a small island in Thailand at the end of a trip. You got to take cash out, and the ATM spits out your card with no explination, other than Thai text that fills the screen.
There are no banks, only ATM’s on the island, and none of the banks are Canadian anyways, so it wouldn’t matter.
It’s a 6 hour boat ride, and a 8 hour bus ride to the nearest bank. Not that it matters because you don’t have enough physical cash for that trip. You’ve been traveling for 8 months, and after being in Bali for 6 months, 2 of your bank cards are completely locked by your bank because they’ve been compromised by fraudulent ATM card scanners and are in danger of being completely drained at any given moment. You don’t keep cash in those accounts anymore.
The one remaining card you brought has a block on it, but it’s still working because you can call your bank, have them temporarily remove the block for an hour, you pray the hackers don’t notice or choose that exact moment to try to take out cash, you do your transaction and then the bank locks it again.
But that card isn’t working today. Even unlocked, NONE of the ATM’s will even register that it’s in the machine or take your pin, never mind actually give you cash. Maybe the ATM is out of cash, maybe the gods hate you, but it’s more likely it’s your card.
Your bank certainly won’t mail your card to Thailand, and your new cards will take 3+ weeks to make it to the nearest big city (which you still can’t get to without the cash you need)
Also, it’s almost dinner time, and you and your kid are hungry.
What do you do?
You ask at the local co-working space if anyone is Canadian, when you find them, you approach them to ask an awkward favour. Can you help me get money out? Can I send you $400 CAD via etransfer, and you can take it out of the ATM for me?
You have to trust that this stranger will keep their word, get you your money, and you’ll be okay.
Don’t get caught out like this. Make sure your bank knows you’re traveling (or they might lock your card)
Bring extra cards incase yours gets locked and it takes you 2-30 days to figure it out with your bank in Canada.
ALWAYS GET MORE CASH 5-10 DAYS BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY NEED IT.
The best extra card is one with no foreign bank fees. I love Koho because they are a company that wants to change the face of banking. You can even open it online. https://app.koho.ca/referral/5D8S470L
There’s nothing worse than landing in Madrid Spain and realizing that a coffee and a croissant will cost you $15 CAD, there’s nothing gluten free on the menu, and the hostel you’d planned on staying at doesn’t let children stay in shared dorms, meaning your 11 Euro bunk bed is now a mandatory 56 Euro ROOM, and your prepaid room is no longer prepaid, but hella expensive. You have $200 in your account for food, shelter and hopefully seeing the sights over the next 6 days. True story.
What do you do?
The solution was to pay for the 1 night at the hostel, then spend a few hours of frantically messaging people on CouchSurfing.com, until I found a VERY kind Spanish man who took us in and treated us like gold for the days we were with him. By the way, people are incredibly kind to traveling moms & kids.
NomadList has a great guide on what you should expect to pay to be in many of the best spots.
While I’ve never actually traveled with health insurance, and we’ve never had anything worse than a staphylococcus skin infection, parasites (you probably have them too right now by the way), an unexpected pregnancy, and mosquito bites (oh and then dengue), all of those I handled with natural plant based medicine, or over the counter (ie under $50, minimal dr intervention) medications.
These are the items I swear by, and always travel with to handle any issue. https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1KUZCX63DP6BS?ref_=wl_share
I’ll also say, it helps a bunch to not eat meat, processed sugars, or alcohol.
You don’t need health insurance, but if me saying that gives you the heebie-jeebies, then you DO, because anxiety breeds accidents. (if you want help resolving this anxiety for good, book a call with me)
So if you do really want health insurance use https://safetywing.com/ or https://www.worldnomads.com/ You can start using them when you are outside your country of orgin too, which is unique to insurance companies.
Use Kiwi.com to get your one way ticket.
Some countries will require proof of online travel, so a quick google search “what are the visa entry requirements for XX country” will let you know if you need that. You can then have a backup “fake” ticket ready for when you need it.
There are a number of services that have sprung up in the last few years. Choose your own.
Locate Accommodation on AirBNB for your first 2 weeks. (use the price sliders to choose only the listings that are in your budget, or you’ll get “luxury envy” I guarantee it.
Once you’re there find a local place via the grandma method, or the facebook method.
Facebook search for “(Ubud or name of your town) Longterm Rentals” and then look for what you want to find.
Families in Mexico https://www.facebook.com/groups/1889482044672683/
Arcturian/Pleiadian Starseed Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/342683132960718
We are Worldschoolers Events https://www.facebook.com/groups/299731590638407
Ubud Events https://www.facebook.com/groups/701570479882385/
Ubud Night and Day: What to do and Where to go! https://www.facebook.com/groups/1031355626884446
Burning Man Global https://www.facebook.com/groups/2209575143
Make sure you setup the bank of mom (ie, get your mom to handle opening your mail and give her shared access to an account so she can cash cheques for you, and handle money things that might need you to be physically present. Remember to say thank you.
You can also Docusign most things if you ask (it’s legally binding, and I used it to buy a car remotely once.. yes.. for real), or digitally fax papers you print and sign (helpful when dealing with govt agencies who want fax.
When you pack your bag, bring only what you would bring to a friends house for an overnight. Everything else you can pick up along the way.
“One can recognize an expert traveler more by what they leave at home than what they carry in their suitcase.”