Don’t know there’s a problem

Know there’s a problem, but don’t know what to do to fix it

Know there’s a problem and do know what to do to fix it

Fix part of the problem, discover a new problem.

Fix that problem, discover a new problem

Discover you have a habit of creating/finding problems to heal, and work with that

Create a new habit of loving life vs healing self

Create a new experience of loving life and face the still constricted parts of yourself

Having a habit of lovingly holding the constricted parts of self, notice they don’t show up a much anymore

Intentionally stretch goal yourself to discover more parts that are hidden

Create a morning practice that lets you go through that process in 10 min instead of having things come up during your day. 

Love life & experience it full of blessings.

Short term…

  1. Put CBD oil into your vagina.

2. Lay on your back and press on your womb through your belly with two fingers pushing down as hard as is comfortable and breath out. Hold your breath for 3 sec. Big breath in and release the hold on your womb. Repeat several times. It will re-focus the tension in your hips.

3. Go for a walk

4. Orgasm

Longer term…

5. Difficult periods are linked to blocked blood vessels in your uterus and so it’s working extra hard to push/contract the blood through it. After your period ends do a vaginal steam with just water or herbs for 10 minutes (Contact me if you want more info on how to do this safely)

6. Look into dietary things that cause inflammation (dairy, sugar, wheat, food dyes)

7. Take magnesium before/during your period (this is why we crave chocolate, but most chocolate has sugar/milk in it which increases inflammation and bad gut bacteria overgrowth)

8. Reduce your stress during the month, or find a better stress management solution (try my 5 Fantastic Fingers technique)

9 Switch from tampons or pads to a diva cup or free bleeding. Conventional menstrual products (tampax etc) have been bleached and will leach it into your vagina!!!! increasing the toxic load your body needs to dump every month.

10. Take at least an hour before/during your period to scream/cry/journal out anything you were upset about during the month.

I experienced massive post-partum depression and later bipolar disorder after the birth of my son. I never took western medicine pills, for fear of becoming stuck for life on them as so many do. So I suffered in silence, my sadness hidden under a sunny outside personality in various ways for 7 years.

I tried many mental strategies for dealing with my emotions which helped some, but it wasn’t until I encountered Dr. Patrick Holford‘s work that I really made progress on true healing.

Holford offers nutrition advice but leans heavily on supplements. I now prefer whole foods and superfoods which I think are a better solution long term (see my article about superfoods I eat daily – coming soon!). However supplementation is a great start for those used to taking pills to help their mental health. Not all supplements are equal and it’s important to watch out for additives like silica, titanium dioxide, and many others.

When recovering from bipolar disorder a great resource for quality supplements was TrueHope which also has a phone support line that was really helpful when I was using their products. They seemed really well educated and specialize in mental health recovery for those with intense mental health symptoms or who are coming off western meds.

Holford’s book is awesome but also repetitive as he covers similar nutrition info for many different symptoms. Just read the chapter on the symptoms you are experiencing and try those things first.

I had good results within 1-2 weeks of taking magnesium, zinc, lecithin, fish oils, and a multivitamin. (See my article about vitamins here) I also added high dose CBD later and it helped a lot in managing/masking my anxiety. Ideally you want to get off any “masking” tools eventually.

If you haven’t already considered reducing/eliminating Gluten/Dairy/Sugar I would highly recommend starting with that first. (Plugging the wholes in the bucket before adding good things to help)

His description of what sugar/dairy/gluten/nicotine/cigarettes do to increase neuro-inflamation in the mentally unstable, schizophrenic or psychosis experiencers was enough to get me off all of them permanently!

Many mental health troubles stem from the gut, so a pro-biotic like a locally farmers market/human produced and NON pasteurized kombucha/kefir/sauerkraut/cashew cheese is a good substitute addictive food your body will learn to crave. lol

Consider adding in something like VTOX from Vasayo, or a psyllium husk powder/charcoal powder in the evening away from food to help your body bond to toxins that your body is clearing overnight (this is what causes the exhaustion generally)

Once gut healing work is done you don’t need to stay dependent on the supplements/probiotics, but do need to keep your diet free of inflammatory foods as long as you are symptomatic (constipation/diarrhea/mood instabilities/excess gas) within 48 hours of eating them.

Often the biggest issue in recovery is relapse into these foods. So removing the underlaying patterning which causes well meaning people to relapse into patterns of poor digestive care.

I’m not a trained nutritionist, but I have studied extensively in my recovery and have recovered in a way that is very meaningful to me and my family. I have also helped others to remove their cravings/compulsion to eat those things that don’t help and stick to their healing programs.

If that is something that you need help with I’d be happy to offer my services to support your journey. Connect with me if you feel you would benefit from this kind of support.

Imagine a spiral shell. At the center the segments are tiny, but as the shell grows they get larger and larger.  The Circles of Commitment (COC) is based on the concept of this shell and the expanding sacred Fibonacci sequence. 

Each segment is a clear individual period of time, yet it is inextricably linked to the others that come before and after it.  Whether we work with it consciously or not, a lifelong commitment involves thousands of these phases.  Utilizing circles of commitment involves moving consciously together from section of time, one level of commitment, to the other.  By using mutually chosen reasonable timeframes, this concept can be used to allow you to choose exactly how and how fast you want to expand your connection. 

In contrast, the standard “white picket fence and kids” future is often called an “elevator relationship” one where once you hop on the elevator, you just keep going. You meet, stop dating others, get married, have kids, (maybe an unfortunate divorce) or end up living happily-ish ever after. The elevator keeps moving and only on one track as decided by a mass media.  Some people really want that specific track while others want to evolve their relationships differently and that is totally fine.  I encourage you to do it however it feels right for you. 

Imagine the ridiculousness of meeting somebody and going. “Wow, you seem great let’s spend the rest of our life together for no reason other than I think you’re a hottie.” (I’ve done this btw, wouldn’t recommend it.)

No wonder men (and women) pull back from commitment, when there’s so little evidence to be able to make such a vast decision on. This is part of why the 100 Questions to Fall in Love and COC are so helpful. 

For healthy, expanding love it’s important to be able to know and dialog around the relationship you really want to be in.  To determine what exactly you are committing too, and for how long.

Regardless of whether you haven’t met him yet, are just starting out or are years into a marriage, you can and should talk openly and clearly with your partner about what you’re hoping the relationship will be in the next 3, 6 and 12 months.

If you are in a new relationship, it’s important to recognize that talking about those big dreams, does NOT mean they will actually happen with this person.  Having big conversations about your future dreams can be an exhilarating part of early relationship.  Or it can show you that this relationship is likely not a good idea, and give you the opportunity to get out before you’ve invested too much time.  It’s important to remember that in that first 1-12 months of relationship you are just feeling them out to see if they’ll be a good fit for what you want. If they aren’t, remember your dreams don’t have to die. Be grateful for the opportunity to clarify what you do and don’t want, and then find someone who matches even better and try again.

If you’re in an established relationship, COC can be used to make conscious changes to the areas of your life that could use improvement.  Whether that’s premature ejaculation, your lack of a sex life, the wild orgasms you feel are possible for you or exploring wanting to move on.  Using small circles of commitment allows you to talk about your relationship transitions where you move from from one version of “you and me” to a different experience of “you and me”.  Regardless of whether or not you end up staying with your partner or moving on to the next one, the growth you do through consciously having the uncomfortable conversations and doing the inner inquiry is the golden ticket that allows you to experience the next level of embodiment of your pleasure goddess self. Lean into the challenge, breathe, check your projections and expectations and you will grow.

The Circles of Commitment concept allows you to expand naturally towards your big dreams of a conscious committed relationship in whatever speed and whatever manner makes most sense to you both. 

In the first month talk about what you imagine your future to look like.  While you do this feel your body as you/they talk about the future.  If it feels open and expansive that’s great!  If it feels worried then bring those things up. Seeing how your potential future partner handles those worries is crucial information about how they will handle future challenges. By clearly sharing your desires and expectations in that first month it will save you a lot of heartache down the road. You are consciously building a great foundation for your relationship.  

Especially if you’re looking for a long term conscious relationship having these conversations will give you real life experience about how this person handles conflict, growth opportunities, commitment and challenge. This is all crucial data that will let you know whether the person that you’re talking about having a relationship with is actually capable of the kind of communication that is required in order to have healthy long term love. 

You might be wondering what does the circle of commitment look? 

The first commitment is one to talk to get to know each other to see what each of you is actually dreaming of having and being in your future relationship. This is just as applicable if you are starting a new relationship as it is if you are re-kindling or trying to rescue a dull marriage you’ve tuned out from.  

NOTE: Other people may be searching for casual romance, excitement in their life, a cuddle buddy, or a sexy friend.  That makes the questions and the commitments you are making with each other really different (see the Safer Sex Elevator Speech Chapter).  Actually this possibility makes it even more crucial to ask pointed and powerful questions to avoid broken hearts, unmet expectations or mis-matched commitment levels.  

It’s powerful to say “Let us spend the next month (online) dating like we’ve put our whole hearts into this relationship, get to know what we are hoping for, expecting and desiring.  We can then check in, see if that’s even a match and see if we want to deepen our commitment at the end of the month.”  Especially for men, these clear expectations and boundaries are really helpful in dealing with those who don’t want to commit, or are looking for something really different than you are. 

When I birthed this concept I was a jaded and heartbroken 33 year old woman with a 9 year old son, 6 ex-boyfriends under my belt since my son was born and a handful of one night stands with “eligible hotties” that had turned into nothing. 

I was feeling the biological pressure to “find Mr. Right and make the babies I always dreamed of” right freaking now. I didn’t want to mess around with another 9 month journey with a soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend, so it was super important for me to ask questions to clarify whether “this hot tinder dude” was:

  1. interesting to me
  2. interested in me, 
  3. wanted something similar to what I wanted in the future, 
  4. was open to the idea of co-parenting my 9 year old
  5. excited to have kids
  6. had processed his past trauma
  7. was actually willing to commit and show up to those shared dreams
  8. showed that he could actually do that and work on issues that came up
  9. capable of fathering kindly in real life situations
  10. After 6 months in the trenches of co-parenting still wanted to stick around to make those OTHER dreams come true.

The timeline on that “getting to know you” conversation can be a week, three months or three years, depending on what you’re both wanting for the speed of developing your relationship.  

If you’re already living together and working on some issues recognize that this can take longer.  Lets face it, the hassles of daily life, kids, jobs will get in the way.

If you’ve just met you’ll likely be chomping at the bit to have these conversations. Good!  

A) If you’ve already got an interesting prospect you’re talking to – Download the 100 questions to fall in love

B) No good prospects in sight? Head over to “What I really want”

C) Playing along? Turn the page…

What does it take to have your your wildest dreams come true? Clarity, persistence, bravery, patience, and aligning with the power of joygasmic syncro-destiny. I had wanted to go to Afest since I heard about it. In 2015 I got my courage together and applied. They kindly said I wasn’t afest material. I was sad.

Later I traveled from my “home” in Indonesia to Kuala Lumpur on trip to renew my travel visa. I figured while I was there I would visit the headquarters of MindValley anyways. <clarity> They were one of my hero companies. A personal development & marketing company I had been following for years.

I under-prepared for my drive from Ubud to the airport and was 30 minutes late by the time I got to the gate. I remember running as fast as I could down long empty hallways. The plane was also late and I arrived as they were boarding. <syncro-destiny>

I got off the plane in Kuala Lumpur not actually knowing where Mindvalley was. No problem. I google mapped the building location and when I got there (after missing my train stop, and reading the map incorrectly) <persistence> I was dismayed to not find a giant sign at street level saying “Mindvalley”. lol

I stood in the street, wondering how I would find them. <patience>

I located a blonde lady who I guessed was likely being an employee and asking her if she worked there. I told her I wanted to visit and express my gratitude for their work, but that I wasn’t able to figure out which building it was in. <bravery> She said told me which tower, and the floor number. YES!

I did not have an appointment, but I said yes when the impressive front desk security asked if I did, praying they wouldn’t actually check. I reluctantly handed my passport to them as ID collateral for entering the building. <bravery>

I made my way to the correct floor and I arrived at a glass door that had the words “Mindvalley > Push humanity forward” on it. I had arrived.

I could see through the glass the inside of the office but I knew that MY thumb was not going to unlock that high tech door! There was a human on the other side.

I knocked on the glass and for the second time that day said “I really love the work you guys do, and I would love to say thank you to your employees!” <bravery> He looked at me like I was a bit crazy, and said, “tours are on Friday, you can book a time to come back tomorrow.” This did not deter me. “I have a return flight to Bali in about 8 hours, so tomorrow won’t work. Maybe I could just SIT in the front office and soak up the vibe?”

He told me I could sit there while he checked with someone else. Another lady came back and very coldly said “No, why don’t you go check out the local museum or butterfly park” and walked me out the door.

I knew there was NO WAY I was bluffing my way past that bottom floor security guard twice today. Or past that stern lady. I had 8 more hours to spend before my flight and I wasn’t ready to go yet.

So I sat on the floor just outside the office where the stern woman couldn’t see me. I cried a little bit about how much being rejected made me feel unworthy of actually having my dream, but then found my way back to being giddy with joy for being so close! <patience>

As people exited the office I babbled joyfully at them. <persistence> “Thank you so much for working at Mindvalley, your work has changed my life!” Several looked surprised and said you are welcome and then continued on to lunch.

The fourth employee stopped and asked what I needed. After talking for a while he invited me into the office saying he just needed to finish something up and then he could give me a full tour. I sat in the lobby waiting for him and Vishen walked through the room. <syncro-destiny>

I stopped him <bravery!> and said “excuse me, but you’re my hero, and your company had changed my life” and asked I could give him a hug. He said yes.

After the hug I quickly said “I have a return flight in about 7 hours, I was wondering if I could spend the time in your lobby just soaking up the vibe. I won’t bother anyone.” He made a quick calculation and said YES, and I knew I was in!

Later I got to say to the lady who had turned me down “Vishen said I could stay!” I felt like I was about 5 years old snobbing my nose at her. lol <karma>

I spent 5 hours in the lobby of the office chatting with people as they walked in/out. I also made some contacts within the company, got a full tour and had lunch with the woman I had applied for a job under. She picked my brain about how their marketing landed in “their ideal client” ME! I asked her what working there was like, and realized I really didn’t want to work for them anyways (big city, long hours, highrise living, pollution to name a few).

On the way through the train station on the way back to the airport a few of the humans who worked at the office stopped me because they thought I might be hungry and had bought me a fruit cup and were bringing it back to me. <syncro-destiny>

I met up with friends from Bali waiting for the plane. Back in Bali I realized I had LOST my motorbike key in Malaysia!!! OMFG. I sat in the bathroom and cried my eyes out. I felt SO stupid. I knew there had to be a way through. I had just had such an incredible day, and seen what persistence and patience could do.

I was already back in Bali, and no clue where my key was in Malaysia. I used body language and mimed to the parking attendant that I had lost my key. He handed me a box of lost keys and after a few tries I found one that worked in my bike.

Without a map and short on gas, I prayed, cried and laughed my way home saying prayers to Ganesh for removing my obstacles! I felt fully in the flow and in tune with syncro-destiny.

A thousand things could have gone wrong, and even though some of them did, they didn’t stop me from my dream. Not a single one of them could. I was unstoppable.

A few weeks later I got a marketing email from Mindvalley asking me if I had applied to awesomeness fest yet. To which I shrieked a little angrily inside. “I already applied and you rejected me… grrrrr!”

Instead of staying angry. I wrote a long email to Vishen the founder of the company, pointing out their error in their marketing funnel, and suggesting how to fix it. He remembered meeting me in the office in such a strange way. This resulted in a reply from him personally inviting me to Awesomeness Fest. The invite only conference for entrepreneurs and world changers I had dreamed of going to for years.

Longer story shorter. I went. That’s me in the front row left, riding a joygasmic bliss wave with the whole group. What kind of wild syncro-destiny stories have you experienced in your life?

For this exercise, go through and circle your first gut response answer as fast as you can on each question. 

Once you have done that, you can take the time to fill in the reasons WHY you chose the answer you did on the lines below. 

If you have a few Maybe’s or No’s, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you shouldn’t be with your partner, but they are definitely things that you need to address and speak with him about. If you’re able to use the Difficult Conversations Template and talk with him about those topics, excellent, keep committing deeper. If not, I’d seriously consider whether staying together is a good idea for you.

They listen to what you have to say and respond with appropriate action and emotion.

  Yes   No Maybe ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

They are attractive to you.

  Yes   No Maybe ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

They care for their body, mind and spirit.

  Yes   No Maybe ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

They have resolved their family of origin issues.

  Yes   No Maybe ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

They have a plan for their life that includes you.

  Yes   No Maybe ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

They knows what they wants in life and are moving towards it.

  Yes   No Maybe ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

They are committed to being with you (in a way that aligns with what you want in terms of commitment)

  Yes   No Maybe ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

If you ask people whether they think there’s such a thing as a ‘born entrepreneur,’ most people say yes.

There’s a widespread belief that there is some underlying, innate component to entrepreneurship.

However, is that true?

I’ve often felt there was something different about me, and this compulsive desire to achieve and make a difference and I wanted to see if there was some literal truth to it, and went digging through the internet, turns out there are lots of talks, and some hard science to back it up, and it all comes down to Histamine.

So how do you know if you’ve got the entrepreneur gene?

It’s as simple as checking your big toe, and the one next to it. Take off your socks, look down at your feet, and if your second toe is equal length or longer than your big toe, it’s likely you’ve got the entrepreneur gene.

This genetic mutation, also knows as Histadelia or High Histamine runs in families, and is often responsible for dynasties of successful families of entrepreneurs. 

A classic example of high histamine genetics is the Kennedy clan: Almost all of them possess that tremendous, unrelenting passion to attain, along with wild sexual exploitation, and a tendency towards death and mayhem. More on that in a moment.

Turns out families with a history of Histadelia have higher rates of Nobel Peace Prize winners, and also higher rates of schizophrenics, depression, and suicide.

Before we go on to make sure you’re one of the winners, vs the crazy or dead, check yourself. How many of these other indicators of the entrepreneur gene and high histamine do you have?

Before we go on to some techniques to make sure you’re one of the winners, vs the crazy or dead, check yourself.

How many of these other indicators of the entrepreneur gene and high histamine do you have?

  • Trouble Sleeping. Histadelics are often over-stimulated, almost manic. Sleep is a problem. They are light sleepers, usually needing seven or fewer hours. Insomnia can be severe.
  • Great Teeth. Histamine promotes the overproduction of mucus, meaning that they have more saliva to keep teeth free of cavities. (Sometimes, saliva is literally dripping from the corners of their mouth.)
  • High Sex Drive. Sexual orgasms are easier, and they are also more likely to get into trouble with affairs or dangerous sexual activities. 
  • Skinny with Health Problems. Histadellics have a high metabolism, so are often skinny, and have troubles gaining weight. The fast metabolism means they need more nutrition, so nutritional deficiency shows up younger (often as young as 8-14), with mental health troubles, binge eating, Aspergers, headaches and respiratory allergies very common. Note: Some have this gene, but carry extra weight. Usually due to excessive toxicity in the body resulting in hormone imbalance.
  • Addiction and Distraction. Histamine has been linked to low dopamine reward response, leading to addictive behaviors, a high tolerance for alcohol and drugs, overeating, and intense risk-taking without consideration of future consequences.
  • Hairless and Chilly. Having very little facial and chest hair helps to release extra body heat from that fast metabolism. (This is the mate who keeps turning down the thermostat!)
  • More Boys. Extra mucous means the smaller, faster male sperm win the race more often, producing mostly male children. 
  • Mental Illness in the Family. Not all Histadelics are depressed, however, those who are, are at high risk because they have the energy to carry out a suicide plan and the impulsiveness to act quickly without thinking it over.  If mental illness runs in your family, or you have any suicides on either side, consider this a wake up call.

So how did you do? If you’re still reading this, it’s likely you or someone close to you meets a lot of these criteria. 

When I first read the list I was astonished at how many of these characteristics I had.

Let’s take “Compulsive Risk Taking” as an example. In 2010 picking up my life, my 10-month-old son and heading to Mexico for 6 months with $500 to my name seemed no more risky than staying in Canada for the winter. Most people would think I’m crazy. Mexico seemed like a safer option in my mind.

The ability to laugh at risk for an entrepreneur is a good thing. We need to be capable of doing the work ahead of us, in the allotted time, with a limited amount of resources, with absolutely no guarantee of success.

That visionary mind sees a big dream, has the will to make it happen, NO MATTER WHAT. You’ve got a vision, you’ve got game, and you’ve got a business.

What about when that spills over into overcommitting, overwhelm, insomnia, mania, and suicidal depression. Now that’s a recipe for disaster.

If you’ve read any of my other blogs, you’ll see that I talk openly about the challenges of my mental health, and how I support myself to thrive.

Just because there is a genetic tendency toward entrepreneurship, doesn’t guarantee becoming a successful entrepreneur.

In fact the odds are just as stacked towards burning out early, lifelong addiction, ending up dead by our own hands, or locked in a mental hospital, as they are towards solving world hunger, being the next Steve Jobs or reversing global climate change.

Grim thoughts, however ones that can be helpful if we use it as an incentive to develop excellent self care and nutrition to help ourselves sooner rather than later.

In order to find balance and success, we need to figure out how to deal with the more negative consequences of our tendencies and promote the positive ones.

Here are my top 5 tips for taking great care of yourself as a high histamine entrepreneur type:

1. Gratitude Journaling

Entrepreneurs are often so focused on the big goal that they struggle to remember what they’ve done well. Keeping a daily before bed journal of gratitude, things that are going well, triumphs of the day, and people who have supported you, helps to keep perspective when that big contract cancels and you’re left high and dry at the end of the month, or when your dreams hit that first (or fiftieth) obstacle and you just want to give up.

Even better, keeping a wall of accomplishments, and making a regular practice to review them, will help gain perspective on how much you really ARE doing, and help you to feel like you are making progress towards those big hairy goals. Journaling right before bed, is also great sleep hygiene, allowing yourself to clear the mind of the tasks you need to do tomorrow, and calm the body with a slow and relaxing activity.

Action Item: Check out this 5-minute hack for doing a great daily check-in/checkout for your workday.

2. Vitamin Supplementation

Because of the high metabolism Histadellics often run through their nutrients faster than they can put them into the body. Brain fog is a real thing.

While forgetting the name of a person an at a networking event maybe forgivable, completely forgetting the key point of your keynote on stage infant of 1000 people, could turn the opportunity of a lifetime, into “that day I destroyed my career”.

Your brain needs to be sharp, and your mind needs to be clear. 

Eating healthy whole foods, at regular times is crucial, as processed/takeout foods are often packed with toxins, additives, colours and chemicals which over time will impact your body more than the average person.

If you’re experiencing troubles with brain fog, adding in an Omega supplement with 2x more EPA than DHA will help give the brain the building blocks it needs to repair and restore that fog. If you’re not experiencing any troubles, give it a try for a month, and see how superhuman your brain will become!

If you’re having trouble with sleep or twitchy legs before bed. Magnesium can really help deal with the underlying causes.

Try switching to a high-quality veg and fruit smoothie in the morning. Not only does it make breakfast quicker to make (so you can get to your workday already), though if you have a tendency to forget to eat, you can drink your mid-day meals, in smoothie form, and still nourish your body. 

90% of the population is deficient in one or more of these vitamins, Magnesium, Vitamin C, Niacin, cannabinoids, B Complex, Zinc, Multivitamin, Omega’s, Lecithin, and for Histadelics it’s even more important to supplement to avoid mental illness and avoid burnout.

Action Item: Click here to get a quick list of which vitamins I use on regular basis to keep my brain sharp.

3. Changing your Brainwaves with Isochronics

For those with never-ending to-do lists, relaxing is challenging, and falling asleep can be impossible some nights. Good bedtime hygiene and journaling can help, though if you’re still struggling, try Isochronics.

Isochronics are a powerful way of helping you shift from work mode, creative problem solving, badass focus, get shit done, over to chill mode (what’s chill mode? you say, try this track) or preparing the mind for sleep. Isochronics work by broadcasting a frequency of sound through the space that causes the brain waves to shift into a particular frequency, for example, Alpha waves for concentration, or restful theta waves for deeper meditations and sleep. They can even be used to increase arousal (not that we need help with that), creativity, and focus.

Action Item: Check out this search on youtube, and click around till you find something that works for your ears and preferences.

4. Brain Training/Subconscious Reprogramming. 

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “90% of all business growth is personal growth”, one of the biggest factors contributing to mental health is our own self-talk.

How we speak to ourselves is crucially important, and especially if you’re dealing with a vitamin deficiency, these voices can get loud and nasty really fast.

Brain training is best done in the morning and evening times when we are rising/getting ready for sleep, because we’re able to access the subconscious easier, and use these times to program our brain to be better and more resourceful entrepreneurs. NLP (NeuroLinguistic Programming) is the basis of Tony Robins work and is part of what makes the work of the biggest personal development leaders work to create permanent change.

It involves asking ourselves questions, and making statements to the subconscious mind like “How easily can I leverage the skills I have to be even more successful in my business?” Questions like this pre-suppose (a fancy NLP way of saying that they assume) that it is easy, for you to do this, that you have the skills you need, and that you are “even more successful” implying to the subconscious that you are ALREADY successful, and simply seeking more of the same.

Action Item: Check out these custom made brain training tracks for entrepreneurs

5. Other People Who Get You!

Entrepreneurs often feel they are different than others, (partially because they are) and it can be a lonely journey, especially if friends and family members are 9-5’ers who don’t understand why you are so driven, compulsive, or overwhelmed by the need to achieve in your unique way. Finding other entrepreneurs, whether that is through a group coaching program, accountability group, co-working or educational program, allow you to brainstorm, learn from, and spend time with people like you, who are driven to make a difference in the world.

Action Item: My personal favourite group, and a lifesaver in a world of “seeming to have it all together” is the vulnerability, support, and weekly “we’re showing up for each other here at the Ignite. If you’ve read all the way to the bottom here, you’ll fit right in, so click here to join us!

What if action sparked a new reality,

quicker than anyone could comprehend
without having been here,
experiencing a global trauma
or the beginnings of enlightenment.

We know that wealthy, corporate interests
are pushing politicians to cut social services,
lift environmental regulations,
and relax labour laws to help the economy “bounce back.”

That’s why we’re working with organizations and groups
from all across the country to build a mass, people-powered movement
that will fight for government action to meet our communities’ needs,
generate millions of decent, green jobs, and tackle the climate crisis.

The first step is reaching out in our communities
to come together

behind the vision
of a Just

We’ll do that by hosting virtual,
locally led teach-ins across the country
bringing this vision to the people.

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(wherever you are)
Do you feel the call?

Interested in attending or co-hosting a LOCAL ACTION GROUP, please reply back YES ACTION.

Traveling onwards all the time,
meant that friends were few and far between.

I remember standing in the square in Tagahzout Morocco.
My boyfriend had just left me.
No more exciting first kisses,
only an expensive lease on our newly chosen apartment,
a broken heart, and a terrifying feeling that
I may never see him ever again in person,
as he traveled onwards to Russia.

My heart broken, and relieved at the same time.
I feel like a failure in love. In life.

But I must go on.
I look at the people talking and connecting.
In this foreign land, I wonder why I am here?
I see men talking lively in the streets. Holding hands while walking.
Kissing each other on the cheeks as they say goodbye.

This culture has an understanding of brotherly love
in a way that my culture of origin doesn’t.

But as I look around, I am one of the only women
this culture also doesn’t view freedom for women
the way my culture of origin does.

But friendship, friendship I see everywhere.
In the casual conversations around me.
I watch two men in particular having a rousing conversation
they speak together, and their bodies show an open familiarity
A laughter and a joy at being together.

I sit in the square watching them for a while
and all the while the burning in my heart grows and grows

Where is my friendship?
Where is my home base?

we have come to walk this gorgeous earth
as change makers who know their role
so things can be so, so different 
than they were before.

so that freedom may ring upon the land
strife and starvation a distant memory

I am a woman, the voice of our generation
I am the daughter of change makers,

Because my mother was a change maker, 
no one hit my bum.

Because she was a change maker, 
my father never hit me.
Neither did the teachers, 
or the church men, or the nuns.

Because your mother was a change maker,
I wasn’t raped by your brother after school.
or “caught someplace I shouldn’t be” by your father 
and “punished” in ways that were too cruel.

Because our mothers were change makers
We didn’t grow up in fear, starvation or leering looks
We grew up with the freedom to read books

Because your mother was a change maker.
You got to go to school.
and choose your own major in college,

Because of a generation of change makers
You got to see the glass ceiling, 
and wonder why it’s there,

instead of sitting at home raising babies,
while your husband does his secretary after work
making excuses like “fair is fair” 

Because our grand mothers were change makers,
your mother felt she had the right to ask for change.
Because our mothers were change makers
we feel we deserve the freedoms in which we were raised.

yet despite this legacy of change,
and how free we were raised to be

many were not as lucky as me,
They suffered greatly from the old ways.
and many still quake within their mental walls, 
struggling to find the strength to to be whole

So there is still work to do, 
to raise a free woMAN in this land

The time for change is always now,
so raise your voice and speak out loud
the valiant thoughts you’ve always held

find your voice,
make your choice,
and stand in your power now.

together we are claiming greater strength 
together we stand, here, hand in hand, 
as the change makers our babes need

things will change more
than ever before.

My only question to you change maker
which changes are you ready to stand up for?

Have you ever had a moment like this??? You’ve finally got yourself out of conversations about Roblox, or whatever YOUR kid loves, and you’ve got 15 minutes before your next phone call. It’s a discovery session, and your next months food feels like it depends on this call going well and your prospect turning into a client.

The house is surprisingly quiet for about 15 minutes, but then only 5 minutes into a discovery session and a familiar knock comes on the door, and while you’re in the middle of your call, your kid is tapping you on your shoulder, talking to you, or worse on your lap, and putting their fingers in the camera! SO UNPROFESSIONAL.

All of these were real life horror stories of working from home for me over the last few years. Fortunately as my son got older, we figured out better systems to make sure I was able to get focused work time, and he felt like he was getting my attention and love.

While my soul passed into this world,
my mother chanted sacred words.

Words that my father brought to her,
from his favorite worlds, and wise witches.

We must remember these words now.
More than ever we must live them.

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” Frank Herbert, Dune

In the past I have failed to head these words,
and I have suffered,
the foolish obliteration
that succumbing to fear brings.

No more. Not now.

Those who are in fear
need to hear
our Rainbow Warrior Love Soul Song now,
more than ever.

They need hear the true stories of the Lightworkers
of how WE HAVE ALREADY faced our greatest fears,
and now live to help others.

If you resonate as Lightworker, Starseed, Rainbow Child, LBGQT, PTG, or Conscious Mother, you have already passed the test, you have already awoken.

The challenge now
is to walk that talk,
every single day

as a journey of self love
for the salvation,
and the thriving

of all our lives is in our faith for the planet,
and our own aligned and resonant actions with our communities and families

We are the ones we have been waiting for.
The force is with us.

Feel your feelings,
and then Rise!

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