• Prior to your first birthing experience had you ever talked to anybody or connected with anybody who had had an orgasmic pleasurable or even pain free birth?
  • What unconscious assumptions did you have about the process of birth?
  • How consciously did you participate in your conception process?
  • Did you feel safe in your birthing environment?
  • Did you have any experience of sexual trauma that was not dealt with at that time of your birth? 
  • How much personal autonomy did you have in the process of birthing?
  • How supported did you feel by your caretakers?
  • How deeply were you connected to your sense of personal pleasure?
  • What was your relationship with your partner like?How supportive and loving was your relationship?
  • Did you have any underlying relationship issues that needed to be resolved?
  • What would it take now to do that work with your partner?
  • What were the stories that you told yourself about birth?
  • What are the birth stories that inspire you?
  • What kind of birth do you want to create? 
  • How many ways since you gave birth before have you since asserted your autonomy in your life?
  • How many more ways can you learn to experience pleasure?
  • What else might have affected your ability see what was possible for you and birth?