Has anyone ever told you to take a deep breath and just calm down?  

If you’ve ever tried it, it seems to work in the moment, but more often than not, within a few minutes (or second) the anger is right back there. 


Your 5 Fantastic Fingers

This is a 5 min or less exercise, designed to help you shift your brain completely from stress to relaxation and forward thinking peaceful action.

We use the ritual of doing this practice from start to finish to create a repeated brain pathway that says "when I start doing this I am stressed" to "when I finish this I feel good".  

Each time you do it successfully (aka complete it and come out slightly/completely calmer), you hardwire the pattern of moving from stress to relaxation even quicker into your brain.

If you need to do it more than once no problem at all.  
I say "doing it twice is better than doing it not at all!" 

If you forget to do it.  No problem.  
You'll have lots more opportunities to practice.
You're a mother after all.  😉

1. Breathe.  

Place your thumb and baby finger together.  

We do 5 breaths here, to recognize the awareness of the anger or pattern within us, to realize that we have recognized we are stuck, and are preparing to shift it.

Take deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth, this helps calm your nervous system.  Imagine you are breathing OUT all your anger.

2. Make Love

Place your thumb and ring finger together.  

We do 5 breaths here, to recognize the love that we cary within ourselves, looking around the space for anything we feel greatful for, and expressing gratitude for that in our inner (or outer) voice.

Grattitude for ourselves for recognizing we are stuck,
for our children for calling us to more love,
for having the tools and awareness to recognize the the anger or other pattern ​
to have recognized we are stuck, and are all ready to shift it.

3. Magnetize

Place your thumb and middle finger together.  

We do 5 breaths here, connecting with what we WANT to be happening instead.

We want to be patient.  We want to be loving.  We want our kids to behave better.  We want to feel more rested. 

Spend 5 breaths doing your best to VISUALIZE and then EXPERIENCE yourself as those things you want to be feeling.  

This is where the magic happens, and you shift it. 

4. Look Inside

Place your thumb and index finger together.  (put your hands to your eyeballs like silly glasses if you haven't already laughed some in the process already)

We do 5 breaths here, to scan our body from head to toe, and see if there is ANYTHING that is left of that initial anger/challenge.  If there is.  No problem.  Just move back to step 1, and then do the process again for yourself, it will feel so much easier because of what you've already done.

We do this to make sure we have completely shifted the energy of our bodies to one of calm.  

5. Celebrate

Place your thumb and thumb together.  Give your thumbs a kiss with eachother 5 times and 5 breaths.  

We do 5 breaths here, to celebrate that we have shifted ourselves, to celebrate that we are alive, that we have power over our minds and our old patterns, and to congratulate yourself on having completed the pattern.  

Positive re-enforcement is so crucial for creating new patterns, so celebrating allows us to know without a doubt "this is good, and I am doing something good for myself"

Congratulations!  You've done it!

Your 5 Fantastic Fingers are Complete

You can now head back into your mom(battle)field like a Bulletproof Mom.

 

What a transformation!

Since watching your webinar I have utilized the 5 fantastic fingers technique 3 times to manage my anger with Daeklan. Thank you so very much ♡ I just finished doing it. I had to do it twice to be good but it has shifted so much in me already. What a transformation! This tool is amazing.

This is a little gift just for you,
because I know sometimes things feel stuck….

So here’s something to listen to
to help yourself remember
that ANYTHING can change.

About Chris Minor

Hi! My name is Christopher Minor, Master hypnotist and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. How does one end up on this path, you ask? It all started 18 years ago with a less than satisfactory explanation of hypnosis in a psychology class at my local University. 

3 years after I had graduated, what started as a way for me to find the best techniques and processes turned into the creation of my own unique processes, techniques and models.  If a technique was incomplete I completed it. If a model was weak I coupled it with another model to boost it's effectiveness. If a process was redundant or unnecessary I rebuilt it or re-purposed it so that it now provided value within the therapeutic setting.  After all, it seemed like an ordinary thing to do when you are looking to help your clients succeed in a short amount of time. I have since come to find after I began speaking and teaching about my methodologies, that is not the normal progression within the therapeutic community. 

 

Each and every year I use these processes and techniques to help people overcome the obstacles preventing them from being the person they want to be in 10 sessions or less. To this very day I continue to research, define, refine, and create new and exciting models and programs. I just love what I do.  

 

Christopher Minor, CCHt

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi and I speak about leaving abusive relationships, the ability to become a new person (in this lifetime), being businesswomen and mothers, the experience of post partum depression, and the difference between meditation, visualization, and imagination.
 

Valerie generously offered us a few of her guided visualizations, and if you’d like to learn more about her offerings overall you can visit her website here valeriebottazzi.com
 
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JoyGasm is asking Conscious Leaders to share their practices of Self Love​ that help them stay strong, focused and powerful as they champion their mission to change the world. 

If you only had 10 minutes a day for Self Care, what would you DO?

What is your take on self-love? Why is it important, and what's the most powerful way you've found to do it?

Self-love is not selfish, it is actually unselfish. As a woman if you don’t take care of yourself, which includes doing things for yourself which bring you joy, it can end up making you feel resentful, stuck, unable to get excited about the future and also cause burnout and anxiety by all the everyday responsibilities that come with relationships, family and career.

How did you start your journey of self love? What started you on your path?

I started on my journey of self-love after experiencing a nervous breakdown while working in my own business 7 days a week, trying to juggle being wife, mother, daughter, friend and constant rescuer and also the loss of a parent. Something just broke inside me. It was after being told by my doctor that antidepressant medications would only get me part way back to my old self and the rest was up to me that I stopped and really looked at how I had been showing up in the world, and started to take care of myself instead of ignoring my needs.

What is your biggest challenge or temptation when it comes to caring for yourself?

Still trying to address the voice in my head that says taking care of myself is selfish. I think that comes from the role of women in my particular generation. We are meant to take care of everyone first and then ourselves while trying to appear as if we have it all together.

What has been the biggest unexpected obstacle you've had in following your passion or creating your great work in the world?

Not an unexpected obstacle so much but I guess being able to stand out amongst so many other coaches, although I think my message is different from the traditional life/business coach and at the same time so vital for many women I come into contact with. Actually it can be life saving for those suffering with severe anxiety/stress/depression.

How has your relationship to challenges changed since you started your journey?

I don’t instantly go into worst case scenarios like I used to. I feel more in control of situations as they arise and take the time to think through things.

Where can people find out more about you?

Full Name: Suzie de Jonge
Business Name: Beautifully Selfish
Website: www.beautifullyselfish.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beautifullyselfish/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beautifully_selfish/

JoyGasm is asking Conscious Leaders to share their practices of Self Love​ that help them stay strong, focused and powerful as they champion their mission to change the world. 

If you only had 10 minutes a day for Self Care, what would you DO?

What is your take on self love? Why is it important?

My experience of love is the realization that all life is connected, deserving of compassion, acceptance, empathy, and care. When I experience this I feel a surge of pleasurable energy, warmth, and joy in my heart. This feels like the truth of who I am, and it's what makes life worth living. When I am busy, I get disconnected from this feeling and I lose sight of who I really am and why I'm doing what I'm doing. That's why it is so important that I connect to this feeling and this experience every day, because otherwise I feel depleted instead of energized.

How did you start your journey of self love? What started you on your path?

I was lucky to have parents who modeled love for me, which is how we learn to love ourselves. My mom taught me that there are no "bad" people, just "bad" things that people do when they are in pain. Even though I learned this at a young age, I of course experienced a lot of pain when relationships failed in my 20's or when I got my heart broken; especially when I got divorced in my early 30's. This is when I sought out the most effective teachers of self love, and spent years practicing yoga, meditation, self-compassion, NLP, coaching, hypnosis, and other emotional healing modalities.

I found what worked best for me and created my own self-love practices that allowed my coaching clients to have breakthroughs in their own ability to experience self-love and profound romantic love with others, so I'm grateful for the pain I've experienced in my life because it lead me to learn how to heal it and help others heal, to experience more love, intimacy, and passion in their lives.

What is your biggest challenge or temptation when it comes to caring for yourself?

As an entrepreneur I sometimes experience that I don't have enough time to meditate or do as much self care as I like to do to feel balanced and energized. Also when my partner and I have an argument and I feel hurt or angry, part of me doesn't want to feel love. But I've learned how to tap into the source of love and give love to the part of me that's hurt or angry, and give myself compassion and soothing, and then transform that emotion into deeper needs or desires that didn't get met. Maybe I wanted my partner to be more collaborative, or give me more support, or see my side.

So I've learned how to transform the emotion and communicate those desires to him in an inspiring way so that whatever I was upset about winds up bringing us to a deeper place of emotional intimacy. That's what I teach to my clients: how to transform conflict into deeper intimacy.

What has been the biggest unexpected obstacle you've had in following your passion or creating your great work in the world?

I've had challenges in reaching the amount of people I want to reach with my work. I'd like more support in that

How has your relationship to challenges changed since you started your journey? 

I've learned that challenges are an opportunity to grow. In the beginning of my coaching practice, when clients were resistant to change and would be blaming themselves or the people in their life, I would get discouraged. But that forced me to develop patience, self-compassion, empathy for them, and faith in my own skills and the clients' path. Since then, I've developed all those things and now most of my clients have such profound, inspiring, deeply touching experiences. But if I wasn't challenged in the beginning, I wouldn't have had the chance to develop my own skills and virtues, and I wouldn't be able to appreciate the profound experiences I and my clients have now. So I welcome challenges now, as another way I can grow.

How can people learn more about you? 

Full Name: Valerie Greene
Website: http://www.coachvaleriegreene.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachvaleriegreene
Twitter: @CoachValGreene
Instagram: val_greene
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV5fnakewbzMZ2yGU-eChqQ

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