I use pleasure to transform.

Pleasure can be any number of feelings.

Pleasure can just be physical sexual pleasure, or it can be just a really good feeling of confidence.

It could be a feeling of completion,
It could be a combination of those things.

Pleasure is subjective to the person.


Let’s take smoking cessation as an example.

So old school hypnosis was all about creating aversion anchors. Saying something like “each and every time that you smoke a cigarette, you’re going to feel nauseous and you’re going to feel like crap, you get to have that taste of ash in your mouth,” you get the idea.

This is what’s called negative reinforcement.

Negative reinforcement works really really well for a very short time, because eventually you’re gonna be like, “fuck this I I’m an adult, I work, I pay taxes. I’m stressed out and I want to have a cigarette, I’m gonna have a cigarette screw what that guy says.”

You’re gonna self sabotage, because you have no filter against yourself and you will convince yourself that this behavior is okay, even if other parts of you know it’s not great for you.

Which means all the work that your hypnosis has done goes right out the window. That’s negative reinforcement.


Now if I say “every single time that you want to have that cigarette and you say, No, no, no, we’re not, we’re not going to do that. We don’t do that anymore. You’re going to get this wonderful rush of pleasure right up your spine. It’s just going to hit your brain. It’s just gonna create a beautiful shower of chemicals. Good feeling chemicals. Like you’re gonna get goose pimples all over. It’s like whoo!!! That’s gonna be incredible”. You think they’re going to go for that cigarette?

No!

It works because we’re fulfilling what they need. Because the cigarette can’t give that to them. They give it to the cigarette so the cigarette can give it back to them. Really what’s happening is the cigarette has now become an anchor. Anchors are very, very powerful.

For example, when I was quitting smoking, I had a half a pencil and I would sit and I would like pretend to smoke on the pencil and it would relax me. I would feel that same sense of peace and calm that was there and in the cigarette smoking. It let me keep the ritual without the bad habit. Eventually I realized it was silly and I could just feel good because I wanted to, it wasn’t about the cigarette or the pencil.

That cigarette is not going to give them what they just felt. They gave it to themselves. The feeling is the thing that they’re looking for. Whether it’s the relaxation, the pleasure, the sense of connection to body and self. You can get that without the cigarette. The pleasure, it’s right there. It’s available. They don’t need the cigarettes to find those things anymore. You’ve returned their power to them.

We are constantly making these anchors for ourselves and most of the time it’s unconscious.

What behaviors do you do, just to find pleasure? What could be possible if you understood (as you do now) that you can create that pleasure at will?

That pregnant women have been hit, is an abomination.  

(if you were the hand that struck, you are forgiven, I'm sorry for the pain that caused your mis-step, you likely have amends to make, do so as soon as you are able!)

That this happens at all speaks to the magnitude of the problem we have to face as men and women.  To the violence which lives within our collective human subconscious. 

It is this, that we must face, together, now.
and how it has impacted who we have become,
(as many of us were the children in those wombs)

If she was not hit, maybe she was scorned,
if she was not scorned, maybe she was taunted,
if she was not taunted, maybe she was ignored.
If she was not ignored, maybe she was alone. 

All of these are gross injustices to the support that a mother needs from her partner and her tribe.

if she was under-supported (and most mothers are)
if she was stressed in any way, instead of supported.

No matter the severity, 
These are also problems from the same source.
The unresolved pain of our ancestors. 

This we must undo within ourselves,
and then with our culture.

Standing silent is no longer an option.
The world is standing at the precipice of extinction 
for our silence and our frozen fear.
we must find the strength to do 
what we know in our hearts is right.  

We must bring back Tribe. 
We must support mothers.
We must give our children peaceful births
We must love each other, 
offer our best to each other.

(as best we can, in the moment... for we were almost all abused in some of these ways)

We are the ones we have been waiting for. 
We must be the mothers to ourselves, 
that our mothers carried too much pain to be.

We must search inside ourselves,
and end the cycles of pain that have tormented humanity 
since before any of us can consciously remember.

We must re-birth the species
In consciousness, love, light and tribe.

For this I live. 
For this I will stand tall
and risk the endless wrath of those who cannot see yet
and love them even more when they strike out
and embrace deeply those who hear 
the beating of our shared 
heart beat as one
love union
hu-man

(original artwork & words by Elena Harder)
Please tag a friend who had a challenging situation while they were pregnant, a doula, midwife, or a sister/friend/brother/husband who was there for you when you needed it most.

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